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Pro-Love: Save the Teens

Forty two years ago, a scared 16-year-old girl was 4 months pregnant. She was a sophomore in high school and undoubtedly abjectly humiliated. Just imagine the shame she must have felt walking down those high school hallways every day—sitting in the classrooms. The taunts, the whispers, the rejection, the name-calling. Six years earlier, Roe v. Wade had given her a legal way to end her pregnancy—to end her shame. Not only was she pregnant at 16, she was also high-risk. She had gestational diabetes, which can threaten the life and health of the mother carrying the child. How easy it would have been to walk in to a clinic. Namelessly be shuffled to a stark white room, laid on a table. One small procedure to end her humiliation—to end the threat to her own life. Despite all of this, she chose life. She chose adoption. It no doubt was the most difficult decision of her young life. Perhaps she's never had to make that difficult of a decision since. But she knew what all of us know d

The Key to Understanding Women

"Women are too emotional." Many men believe that women just need to be more logical and less emotional in their decision-making process—that would fix women's problems, men think. There are all kinds of jokes and memes about how emotional women are and men attempting to avoid dealing with women's emotions. So it's not news that men and women experience the world differently—men are from Mars, and women are from Venus, so they say. Men lament their lack of understanding women, yet few take the time to learn about the fundamental differences between the sexes, much less accept those differences. It comes down to one key difference in men and women: how we experience pain.  Humans experience two types of pain: emotional and physical. Generally speaking, men and women handle the pain they experience in vastly different ways. Have you ever seen a man with a cold? It's ridiculous. He's writhing in pain, moaning and complaining. The end of the world is sure

Every Failed Marriage is the Man's Fault

Let's travel back in time to the Original Sin. Adam and Eve were relaxing in the Garden of Eden. They knew no sin, only the presence of the Lord. In Genesis 3, the serpent comes and starts questioning Eve. Why did Satan choose to talk to Eve? Why not Adam? Do you think Satan knew Eve would have been an easier target? So Eve speaks with the serpent, then she eats the forbidden fruit. She turns to Adam and offers him some, too. Growing up, I always thought the fact that Adam ate the fruit was his downfall. Adam and Eve both disobeyed God, so that was their sin, and now we are all going to hell. But if you look at Gen. 3:6, it says, "she also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it." That means Adam was there when the serpent talked to Eve. He stood right beside Eve when she ate the fruit, and he did nothing. He said nothing. He failed to protect her. He failed to prevent her from walking into sin. That was his sin—apathy. Adam should have s

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Jesus Would Advocate for Civil Disobedience

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Covert Red Flags: The Real Things You Should Be Looking Out For in Relationships

Your relationship with your spouse should be the closest human relationship you ever have. As we are dating, we are assessing whether or not that person could potentially fit into our inner circle. This causes us to be on high alert for red flags. Most red flags are obvious--lack of communication, anger issues, irresponsibility, controlling behavior, abuse, etc. A quick Google search will bring up list upon list of red flags we should look out for. Being rude to waitstaff, not making your relationship public, not caring about XYZ, stone walling, gaslighting, and more can all be found on most lists. But what about the covert red flags? Those things that are less obvious. My first marriage taught me to look out for the overt red flags like the ones found in every advice column. My second marriage taught me to look out for covert red flags, ones that I never even realized were red flags until I could look back. The entire time we dated, I kept looking for the overt red fla

Because of Who I Am

Someone posted on Facebook the other day the following: Why would you fight for someone who clearly doesn't want you? Please let them go. You are valuable, just not to them. I thought about it for a minute, because I indeed fought for my husband when he clearly didn't want me. I fought for our marriage, even when he had zero interest in making our marriage work. He had already checked out and told me point-blank that he just didn't want to work on our marriage, but yet I fought on my knees before the Lord. Throughout the first few months of our separation, I prayed day-in and day-out. I beseeched the Lord to intercede. I rebuked Satan, and I prostrated myself before the Lord God Almighty. I went to therapy, and I watched sermons online. I listened to every Jimmy Evans podcast I could find. I journaled and devoured God's Word. I wrote my husband scriptures and prayers daily. I soon filled a 100-page journal front and back. Shortly after he left in June